I have a similar thing right now.
My marreid friend has flirted with me for months,
blushing around me,
I have very strong feelings for him,
and one day I think he does for me,
the next I am confused.
I have also watched him flirting around with someone else at work,
and it hurts a lot,
you never know if the attention he gives you is sincere or not.
I think this kind of man just likes the attention from women in general and it feels good to him because he needs to know `he could if he wanted to` and it probably makes his day at work go faster and gives him an ego boost.
You can`t blame him can you!
He is probably doing exactly the same thing to the other woman he likes as well,
she may even be feeling the same confusion as you are!
This behaviour makes it difficult for you to ask him outright,
because you do not want to be rejected as neurotic.
There is probably something not quite right at home for him and this is why he does it.
I know this doesn`t help when you have developed feelings for someone (I am in turmoil right now)
one day I think he means it,
the next day I feel he is playing with my feelings just for the attention.
It makes going to work very hard,and the best thing to do is to try and back off.
I have read countless sites for help and advice myself,
because I can`t talk to anyone about it.
I feel that if a man has any true feelings for you,
even as a good friend,
married or not,
he will tell you or let you know in a way which is not confusing.
If he hasn`t,
but knows you like him,
he should be honest and tell you that he likes you but does not feel he can
`go there` He should not give you false hope and keep you hanging on for his own gain
(that is downright cruel)
anyone who respected you would not want to be cruel to you!
Please don`t think that because he eyes you up,
or tries to build a connection with you that he is saying he has feelings for you,
he is not!
He is trying to attract your attention for a reason but not necessarily that he wants an affair with you or thinks you are special
he has just picked up that you are receptive to it.
If a man,
married or not has any real feelings for you,
he will not want to eye,
or flirt with anyone else especially in your line of vision.
If he has a crush on,
or has told you he likes another woman,
then he means he likes her,
he would not tell you that if it was you he fancied.
I`m afraid that he does not have the guts to tell you he is not that into you.
He is keeping you hanging on because he likes the attention and ego boost that you give him.
Don`t fool yourself into thinking that he does not want to hurt your feelings,
he just does not want you to stop idolising him!
This kind of man will probably make comments about you being patient,
this gives you the feeling that he is just building up the courage to tell you how he feels (don`t listen to it)
For your own sanity,
you need to back away from him,
he is feeding off your attention,
has picked up that you fancy him,
and is using it for his
usually only cheat if they are truly unhappy at home or if they `truly` meet a lady who he really falls for,
and so if he really falls for her,
he will not flaunt himself at another woman in her presence,
he would respect her and want her to feel that respect.
If this guy is doing this to you,
he does not respect you,
he is playing parlour games with you.
Please read the site on here `commitment` ambivilent parlour games`
I feel for you,
I really do,
it is awful having these feelings for someone you shouldn`t have anyway,
but it really does hurt when you have to see them a lot.
Please take care of yourself