really complex problem with many issues.
Let`s name them.They are:;
You didn`t mention if there was a child support order.
Do you love her?
Does she love you?
These are significant questions.To solve these issues would require therapy for both parties attending.
For counseling to work,
both would have to agree on the NECESSITY of it.
I guess a basic question is what does she want?
Does she want to preserve the relationship and deal with the father of her baby?
I congratulate you for dealing with the alcoholism.
Perhaps you should tell that problem privately to the minister so that non-alcoholic communion could take place for you.
AA should be very helpful.
A therapist could work through these issues one at a time and it would take some time.
This is not an appropriate forum for solving all these kinds of issues.
Her dishonesty is a severe problem because trust-a vital lynchpin of relationships- is missing.
The non-conmmunication might be worked out.
A final hopeful word,
almost all things can be regained in life except the loss of parent.
I hope that this will help you.